Mentoring People Who Aren't Like You
"It took me years to understand this basic dynamic: Those who look less like me might find it hard to share their concerns with me or ask for help. They might feel uncomfortable raising their hand if they aren’t sure I will identify with them. And it’s on me, as the leader, to help close that gap."
-Richard Farnell in his article "Mentor People Who Aren't Like You" from the Harvard Business Review
Helping your Mentee Trust Their Own Judgment
"Being a sounding board for your mentee, allowing them to discuss the situation with you, then helping them to think through the situation by asking them questions to draw out the consequences of various actions, is always more empowering for a mentee than advising them what to do. It helps them work through the issue and come to their own conclusions. By doing so, you ultimately help them to learn to think through issues themselves and trust their own judgment, both valuable life skills."
-From "10 Ways to be a Good Mentor" by Blue Sky Coaching.
Read the full PDF version here: https://www.blueskycoaching.com.au/pdf/v4i10_mentor.pdf
The Benefits of Mentoring as Told by the Huffington PostRead More
Huffington Post writes about how mentoring benefits the lives of all in their article commemorating international mentoring day in January.
Read the article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/eli-wolff/international-mentoring-d_b_14206704.html?
Trust in the Mentoring Relationship
A good mentoring relationship is built upon mutual trust and respect. Although instantaneous trust would be nice, it often takes time for a strong relationship with mutual trust and respect to develop. Be patient with your partner, and good things will come.
Mentors as Counselors
Due to the close nature of mentoring relationships, it's not uncommon for a mentee to ask a mentor for help with personal or emotional issues. As a mentor, listen carefully, and attempt to provide constructive and meaningful help. However, if the issue becomes too difficult to handle, don't be afraid to refer the mentee to professional help for further assistance.
Mentoring is a long term process, so in order to achieve best results, consistency is essential! Keep a schedule, and make sure that meetings occur regularly (once a week is often best). Be sure to communicate when you cannot make a meeting, and remain enthusiastic and professional throughout the mentoring process. Keeping your mentoring consistent will help ensure that you meet your goals, and that your mentoring relationship ends in success.
In order to build a lasting and trusting mentoring relationship, it is essential for the mentor and mentee to maintain a degree of confidentiality. A close and relatively private atmosphere will encourage frank and honest discussion between the mentoring pair.
A key element of successful mentoring taking time to talk about both successful and unsuccessful past experiences. When a mentor shares events from his or her past, the protégé can learn methods to improve their own chances of success, and pitfalls to avoid in the future.
Keep it Professional!
As a mentor, it's a good idea to maintain a professional image for your mentee. Especially in workplace based mentoring relationships, a mentee will often view the mentor as a blueprint for achieving sucess. Mentors can use their own professional accomplishments and career to help guide their protégé towards acheiving their goals.
Try Different Mentoring Techniques
Mentoring doesn't just have to consist of discussions between a mentor and mentee. Try role playing, attend a special event or conference, or brainstorm ideas on paper. Varying what you do in a mentoring reltionship can help keep things interesting and enhance learning.