Helping your Mentee Trust Their Own Judgment
"Being a sounding board for your mentee, allowing them to discuss the situation with you, then helping them to think through the situation by asking them questions to draw out the consequences of various actions, is always more empowering for a mentee than advising them what to do. It helps them work through the issue and come to their own conclusions. By doing so, you ultimately help them to learn to think through issues themselves and trust their own judgment, both valuable life skills."
-From "10 Ways to be a Good Mentor" by Blue Sky Coaching.
Read the full PDF version here: https://www.blueskycoaching.com.au/pdf/v4i10_mentor.pdf
Communicating through Barriers
Communication can be difficult. The next time you find yourself in a communication bind, remember that everyone views the world through different eyes. What may be very clear to you could be out of focus for other individuals.
Help Your Mentee Suggest Activities
While some protégés love suggesting potential activities for their mentoring sessions, others often either lack ideas or are simply unsure of what exactly a mentoring activity is. As a mentor, give your mentee a range of activities to choose from, and allow them to pick from the list.
Take an Interest in Your Mentee
As a mentor, take personal interest in your mentee. Learn their goals, aspirations, and desires. Legitimate care for your protégé can help ensure future success.
Thank Your Mentor
Your mentor is taking time away from his or her own life in order to assist you. A little appreciation can make a big difference, and may encourage them to mentor others in the future!
Learn How to Accept Criticism
As a protégé, remember that when your mentor critiques you, he or she is simply trying to help. Respond positively to advice and suggestions given to you by your mentor, and attempt to make improvements based on his or her guidance.
On the Importance of Flexibility
Occasional random occurrences may prevent the mentor or the protégé from fulfilling their duties in the mentoring relationship. Keep communication open to help resolve such issues, and try to get back on track as soon as possible. Understand that interruptions and delays are a fact of life, and attempt to work around them!
Solutions to Bad Mentoring RelationshipsRead More
Here are some solutions to the the problems mentioned in our last post titled "Bad Mentoring Relationships". Once again, these came from a great article co-authored by one of the keynote speakers from last years UNM Mentoring Conference, Dr. Lillian Eby. To read the article in full, click here.
Bad Mentoring RelationshipsRead More
While mentoring is an established way to improve workplace and academic skills, not all mentoring relationships are equally successful. In a Wall Street Journal Article, Dawn E. Chandler, Dr. Lillian Eby (a keynote speaker at the 2013 Mentoring Conference) and Stacy E. McManus, point out some common issues with mentoring relationships.
Communicate frequently and keep your mentor or mentee up to date with important events. Inform your mentoring partner of any important changes that could impact the relationship.